Resetting the score each day to 0-0

A different way to keep score in your relationships: Every morning, reset all scores to 0-0.

Do you keep score? Come on… Be honest. Who owes you something? It feels normal to keep score. Especially when we are “up” in any relationship. That special thing you did for your partner. The donuts you brought in for the team. The out-of-your-way encouragement for a friend. Feels like money in the bank.

But it’s not. Reciprocity is only good form. And oh how irritated we become when the receiving does not align with the giving. “I do everything for them and they can’t even…”

What if we scrapped the ledger completely? What if we reset the scoreboard to 0-0 each day for every relationship?

And then what if we took it one step further and made sure to end each day with giving more than we received?

by Jonathan Wilson

Jonathan is the Head Coach at Sandcastle Company, a Seattle-based leadership training organization. His first book, Future Leader: Rebooting Leadership to Win the Millennial and Tech Future [link], is now available. Jonathan regularly writes and speaks about The New Leader Way, leadership resilience, and the future of work. He has years of leadership experience in both the public and private sectors, a master's degree from Seattle University, and professional coach training from the University of Miami.
Published on September 29, 2020

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